Why I got banned from Facebook for 12 hours.

I’m annoyed.

On Thursday night, I received a message on facebook. The short conversation went something like this – random person : suck my dick?
me : Tell your mum to?
random person : wtf, whats your problem?

Obviously, I’m aware of a few things :
1. It could have been a punk
2. I didn’t need to respond in such a manner
3. I don’t have to post the picture up

After the first test message I sent, and getting that reply back, I decided that he couldn’t have been punked. So I took a screenshot and uploaded it, condemning him.
I just don’t see why people should be allowed to think that it’s acceptable to carry out SEXUAL HARRASSMENT on private message AND NOT GET PUBLICLY SHAMED FOR IT.

Shortly after I received a wall of messages from him informing me that it wasn’t him, and that he stepped away from him com for 10 minutes and his colleagues sent that message. So, I removed it from my wall. And went back to streaming/playing my game.

random person : i dont think i deserved to be honest, just because i left for 10 min from my pc
me : be careful next time i got real assholes pming me things like that so i’m not too surprised ok bye i streaming. need to play my game

Somehow people still continued to access it, probably from links from people who saw and replied to it.

random person : tammy, i need to ask u to remove this picture as i dont want shit like this lying around the internet. i already told u, even before u told me about this post, that it wasnt me writing this shit. if it hasnt been removed in 5 min i kinda need to report this to fb. not as a threat, but u are probably gaming at the moment..
1. i alr said i removed it from my timeline

2. i posted before you replied
3. its not my problem, honestly if u don’t want to guard your com so pls if you are asking for a favour ask nicely for all i know you were really the one who posted then decided to act blur its YOUR account YOUR responsibility

And I was in the middle of games and streaming, so I didn’t read the reply cos I figured it’s solved after I hid the picture.

And guess what? This asshole reports me because his “intention was not to get u banned at all, but simply to get the picture removed from public”

GUESS WHAT DUDE. People get fired for leaving them com unlocked cos other people can take a look at classified/internal information. You deal with your own responsibility yourself instead of making it my fault. In the end, the message is sent with your account, and no matter how you want argue, you can’t prove that it wasn’t you who sent it, then got cold feet for seeing me post it to 7000 people to see.

He can tell me this : as i told u, im not that type of person write this shit to a person

GUESS WHAT’S MORE? I don’t know you! Probably NEVER met you before, NEVER spoken to you before, except for this one time, where you start off the conversation with a “suck my dick”.

So, on a day when I REALLY need my social media to post out event updates, I’M STUCK GLARING AT THE SCREEN AND BEING BANNED.


To this guy’s colleagues, I hope all manner of unpleasant people come your way and that you get into tons of trouble because of them. It’s all fun and games to you when you punk someone, but maybe you should not involve someone else, AKA ME.
TO YOU facebook just a fun way to interact with your friends and play games.
To other people it’s their livelihood, and they make a living based on their reach.

To the GUY. I hope you learn what RESPONSIBILITY is, and instead of just REPORTING ME, when I already showed that I was willing to HELP YOU GET OUT OF YOUR SHIT, you could have WAITED until I replied. If you were as INNOCENT as you said, you’d have NO TROUBLE convincing your GIRLFRIEND, MOTHER, FUTURE EMPLOYER who happened to see it that it wasn’t you.


I’m already being VERY nice in not naming this person, even though I could very well do it on my own personal blog, WITHOUT GETTING BANNED.

3 Fatal Errors to make when you want to get someone’s attention

I’d say that I enjoy a certain amount of attention from fans and I do get a fair number of private messages from people whom I totally do not know.
I’m sure that even if you don’t private message me, you might private message someone else, and you’d want a reply from that person.
I have to admit that I myself have sent out some fan-ish messages to people I admire. And guess what, my success rate is GREAT! =x
So, as someone who receives messages and also sends messages, let me impart some advice on how to increase your success rate of getting a reply.

If there is one message that you should take home from this… it is that :
Golden rule #1 Being on someone’s friend list, buddy list or fan page does not mean that the person automatically knows you. So approach him or her as though you were approaching a stranger. Knowing about that person’s life and thoughts does not mean the person knows you too.

So, keeping that rule in mind, here are the 3 worst things that you can do to start your first message.

1. HI! Can I ask you a question please?
I mean… ok… this is more or less a rhetorical question. It is unlikely that I, or anyone would refuse an audience to someone who wants to ask a question. Especially when I have no idea what you will be asked.
This is annoying though, because that in itself, is ALREADY a question, and I would have to spend one message replying “yeah sure, go ahead” when I could have spent it actually REPLYING the question.

While we are talking about questions….

2. Asking me something which I’ve repeatedly replied to in public, or which can easily be googled.
I’m helpful… but if this kind of question catches me in a bad mood, you’re likely to get a snappy reply. Luckily for many people, I normally reserve my best of moods to read private messages and fan mail.
Golden rule #2 : asking someone something, anything, should be a last resort. Try asking google first… or doing some background research on your own before asking someone. Or thinking. Thinking is actually a very useful skill to have.

3. This last WORST thing you can do leads me back to Golden rule #1. And that is being rude.
Just remember that the person you are messaging probably, and by probably I mean 99%, doesn’t know who you are, and you’re just as unlikely to really know the person too, as much as you might think you do. So please do not assume to know that person, and please don’t expect a reply (a nice one at least) if you overstep your boundaries.
I get random messages asking me to perform various sexual favours, or on the milder side, messages containing false assumptions which have been made about me.
Just because it’s online, and you’re safe from a slap on the face, doesn’t mean its ok!

That said, HOW do you get a reply, and even better, put a smile on that person’s face?
Here are some quick tips

1. Give them something nice.
For example, if someone makes me a nice banner pic which I can use on my profile, or twitch (nono… I’m not hinting for a pile of banner pics… I’m quite happy with mine) I’d be very pleased, and would most likely repost it for everyone to see and appreciate.

2. Don’t ask for anything. Not in the first message, anyway.
Some of the posts that I’ve immediately closed and moved on from involve people asking me to do something elaborate or time consuming. I normally will repost interesting info if people ask me to, and if I find it interesting, cos it’s easy and quick to do. But if someone asks me to say… trade DotA2 items, I’m going to walk away from that because firstly, I don’t really bother too much about my items and secondly, it would take too much effort.
Similarly, if someone asks me for a fansign, it is unlikely that I’m going to spend at least 45minutes designing the fan sign, putting on make up, taking pictures etc.  (so, if you want a fan sign you’ve gotta work for it, probably when I run one of my promos… if ever.)

3. Say something nice, but don’t pile on the flattery.
Telling someone how much you admire them for a good quality they possess is normally irresistable. And  by GOOD QUALITY, I don’t mean oh you look so cute in your picture. I mean something deeper and more meaningful than exterior appearances.
I once told a photographer how I admired her passion for photography and how it moved me to learn about the odds she had to overcome to get to where she was. If I, instead had told her, “Oh this pic you took is so awesome!” I’m pretty sure it would just have been swept away and ignored.
It’s normally evident when someone is sincere, as opposed to just being blinded by fandom.

SO. I hope this helps.
AND, if you try this on me, I will kill you.


Why there aren’t enough professional gamers out there.
Save for countries like China and Korea, it’s hard to say that professional gaming is an accepted sport, where the gamers live together and follow strict training schedules.
In most countries and societies, gaming is seen as entertainment; a past time, something to be done in one’s spare time, and not as a real job.

Why the gamers are scared
There has been more than one case of gamers being promised something, and organisations/sponsors falling short. Almost every single gamer out there will have a horror story to tell of funds not being paid out, not being reimbursed, managers running off with the sponsored items and cash…
Being a gamer doesn’t put you above the daily needs of a normal person – there are bills to be paid, expenses, and the occassional movie for when a gamer decides to come out of his shell – and spending time NOT holding a proper job is bad enough already (in the eyes of society, family… etc) but to not get duly paid WHILE putting in all that effort is just one big turn off.
Pressure from family and friends will eventually mean that the gamer has to go back to society to find a “proper job”, where he’ll be competing with others who probably already  have a couple years of work experience.

Apart from that, you can almost hear the sound of their dreams of going pro crashing around them…

We’re not here to gloat or to point fingers but simply to draw attention to the people who always suffer in these matters – the players. The young professionals who have high hopes of making a living from their passion. When they are let down the ramifications for the whole of e-sports are dire. The owners generally walk away unscathed, the sponsors too. The players are left not only wondering when they will receive what they are due but whether or not they can continue competing at all, whether it would be a better option to stop and take that office job where contracts actually mean something and your pay arrives in your bank account at a precise minute.

“From This Mortal Coil”  http://www.cadred.org/News/Article/191506/
(this is the article which sparked off my entire post btw…)

Why the sponsors are scared
Teams are volatile things. Oftentimes, it just takes one semi major argument to blow everything to bits, and organisations are left without a squad. Replacing them is theoretically an easy thing – many aspiring gamers, funds on hand – but in reality, putting a team of 5 together is a very delicate procedure. Keeping the 5 together for more than 6 months is practically an act of God.
So, when your “talent” doesn’t stay together, and they don’t rather put their own interests and decisions above the collective, as most gamers do, teams fall apart.

How this is relevant to me.
I’ve taken the path less trodden. despite my education I chose to stray from a mainstream career and have immersed myself in the gaming industry and community for the past decade or so. I have to admit that I get lots of comforting comments like :
(from a career woman my age) well, i’m pretty sure that most of us on this side of the fence would much rather be on your side of the fence where you’re doing what you enjoy for a living.
(from a male ex-schoolmate)wow… you’re living my childhood dream man…

But at the same time, it’s hard. The money isn’t as good as it is out there, and most of the time it’s a thankless job. People are more ready to point fingers and criticise than they are to compliment and help make things better.

A short while ago, I was contemplating giving in to the pressures of growing up and applying for a mainstream job in a large corporate company.
Then, I got offers to remain in the eSports scene, and more offers… and more offers.
At this point in time though, they are just that. Offers. Nothing concrete, but the potential and frequency makes me believe that I can continue doing this, for a while more. And I want to make things better.

Having the experience of both ends of the spectrum – the gamer and the sponsor/organiser/manager – makes it clearer for me to do things.
There’s room for improvement and learning, definitely, but what I have so far, helps me.

And I believe, that it is people like me, who are gamers moving into careers into the gaming industry, who will spearhead the changes to make professional gaming a reality for talented gamers out there.

I hope I live to see the day.

Like… Woah… Hold your horses white knight fanboys…

Got many comments about the whole Na’Vi hoodie issue, quite a few simply didn’t understand what I was trying to say, so for the benefit of everyone, here it is in one simple sentence :

I would have appreciated the campaign better if they used their star players instead of a tv host, because it would have connected better.

That really is all there is to it.

Here are some further clarifications,
1. It is ironic that you would bring this up, seeing as you are a female gamer who markets herself as such.
– well obviously I would market myself and my teammates as female gamers, because that is who we are. If I were to use iceiceice as our mascot to reach out to the gamers, then there is something very wrong there.

2. All you did was show your face and you became famous, because people saw that you were a girl.
– thanks for discounting the 8-9 years that I’ve been in the DotA community, as an employee, a manager, a gamer, a competition organizer, a caster, a streamer, a content provider….. Etc.
But even if I didn’t do all that work, then why are there so many unknown gamer girls (who have shown their face) around?

4. This is a normal marketing gimmick used by all companies, there’s nothing wrong with Na’Vi doing it too.
– (if my first post mentioning that it was nothing reprehensible wasn’t clear)
Definitely! There’s nothing wrong with what they did.
It didn’t connect well with everyone, and felt like it was a lazy approach (as compared with their other reviews eg,the benq monitor review, no players were involved, and compared to other organizations who ran some mind blowing campaigns) but essentially, there’s nothing wrong with it.
It doesn’t mean I have to like it. The boobs and girls tactic is efficient, but there’re are people who would have been more impressed by a more classy, player oriented sort of thing.
In the end anyway, they gained lots of people discussing it, and no publicity is bad publicity. You gotta admit the shock value was there.

5. You hate her. You are jealous of her. She’s making easy money with her tits and you?
– I don’t think she’s unattractive, I think she has a good bod, and she knows how to act in front of a camera. Basically, she’s a good host, entertaining, and does a good job.
I said more or less the same things in my previous post. Does it sound like I hate her or that I’m jealous of her?
How people choose to make their money is up to them, I’m making easy money cos I’m doing what I love, and when I love what I’m doing, it’s not a job.


Just to end off:
Quickly now, what do you think of when I mention the deodorant “Axe”?
(probably more relevant to the people from the U.S.A)
Or perhaps, “Old Spice”?

See the importance of who you choose to associate with your brand yet?



polina navi hoodie

I’m a Na`Vi fan. Definitely am.
But not because of anything other than their skills, the way the team has stuck together for more than a year (which, in DotA is equivalent to eternity), and because from my interaction with them, I’ve come to like them as people.

But the recent advert selling their newly launched hoodie has got me raising my eyebrows (interesting fact about me: I am totally unable to raise just one eyebrow), and other people raising other things, probably.
I’ve always thought the media team has been doing a great job with their consistent coverage (as opposed to their recent… un-coverage…), product reviews and game highlights. The current direction they are moving in though, (seems to be… up?) isn’t something I can say I’m happy about.

To quote v1lat’s 2 tweets about the matter (this is a rough translation) [edited, thanks to panda]

“Well, this was the last fucking straw, alright. I’m unsubscribing the fuck from navi’s channel. When will they be fucking her right on the stream? I mean, why not?”
“I do not know why I was so angry. But angry specifically. And then wonder why our country is called the country of whores.”

If a Ukrainian caster can feel this way… it must mean something, right?

To be fair, almost all mainstream companies use sex to sell their products, services etc, so by those standards, there’s nothing reprehensible about all this.
I do think, however, that Na`Vi is perfectly capable of moving those hoodies, based on star power alone. I mean, I’d buy it because I want to support the team, but right now, I wouldn’t even want to share the link to that video because I don’t want the money I’m indirectly “donating to the players” to contribute to the amount for hiring her.

No doubt, Polina is a good host. She’s earned her credentials as a TV host, she’s comfortable presenting, interesting sometimes, and probably a good way for Na`Vi to get into the mainstream media.
But she shouldn’t be made into a reason to support the team.